JV, I think most of us here, and Ron in particular would agree with the idea of "questioning authority". Obviously the very work we're discussing was based on Ron doing exactly that, and such an attitude is a prerequisite for all of us doing mods, as our work is a form of questioning the experts claims about what is possible. As Ron said, he respected you questioning the work he's done. He wasn't saying he and his work are above questioning. After all, that's an essential part of the process that leads to improvements.
I don't think you should feel bad about having a questioning attitude, or questioning the work done for you, but as Ron implied, there's a sequence. I think that's more of the point. At the beginning of any endeavor, though some of us try to gather all the information possible before jumping in, there's still a lot more trust needed because you don't have the actual experience to know a from b. So first, you listen to your teacher or those who have gone before you, and out of respect for the time they've put in to their craft, you do your part to follow their advice. Then, after you have some actual experience, some skin in the game, and are not just an armchair coach, at that point your questions and inferences will be more valued because they'll be grounded in actual experience and won't seem like someone criticizing or questioning something they have no knowledge about, or someone disrespectfully nipping at the heels of those trying to help them.
That aside, some good things have come out of your question. Karl and Dan have pointed out that in addition to the direct airflow, another component of the groove is the secondary compression of air towards its center.
And Dan has let us know we can use water to lubricate while cutting. It's less toxic than oil or WD40, it's cheap and you don't have to remember to take it with you if you're modding off-site.
And it was good to hear that when you followed the ECU reconditioning process as written, you seem to have gotten some great results.
Keep us posted about the changes in your mileage!